Cash Envelopes

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I’ve been using cash envelopes for almost a month. And I must say this: it is true you spend more money with plastic.

I’m pleasantly surprised at how I’ve been able to stick with my budget this month. There will be some adjustments for May, but overall I am happy. My suggestion for you is to get a cash envelope wallet and start using cash.

Victim’s Rights

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Please do not minimize what victims have gone through. If a victim is sharing what she has gone through, please listen. Please.

I am a survivor of domestic violence. It was December of 2015. To this day, I believe my ex was planning on killing me and then killing himself. I will believe that until the day I do pass. You see, when he was released from jail, I wasn’t notified. The employee of the jail that I left my number with said something about, “he said/she said” crap. MY LIFE IS NOT HE SAID/SHE SAID CRAP.

This…this is why I get hot about victim’s rights. This is why I voted for Marcey’s Law. This is why I find my voice and tell my story. But for the grace of God, there go I.

Domestic Violence is scarily common. Domestic violence with a gun is commonly fatal. I count myself very blessed. Very blessed indeed. Find out what your local laws that need rallying around are. Here in Georgia, it was Marcey’s law. It made victims’ rights constitutional as well. Abusers have their rights guaranteed. Victims need the same.

Faith When Things Prove Challenging

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It is no secret that sometimes life gets hard. Really hard. Like lay your dad in the ground hard. That has been my last six months. Pop passed six months ago the 29th of this month.

Grief, mental illness, and general discontentment can suck the life out of you, if you let it. Quite literally. I have never in my life leaned into my faith like I have the last six months. Leaning on Jesus. Leaning on hope. Leaning on Truth.

For me, it’s easy to forget my faith when things are going well. When things are tough-that’s when I buckle down on development. I soak up whatever bits of wisdom I can find. Here are a couple of those.

It’s Not Supposed to Be This Way by Lysa TerKeurst

Trusting God Even When Life Hurts by Jerry Bridges

If you are also going through a loss, or a change, or a challenge-these books are great resources for renewing your spirit . Dig in. Dig deep. Hold on to Love and Faith.

Spring Break

We went camping at Sloppy Floyd State Park last week. We had a fantastic time! The camp hosts were lovely. The weather was perfect. The smores were delicious. And to top it all off, I lost 4 pounds while we were gone!There’s a little glimpse into our break! There are more photos on Facebook and Instagram.


We went camping at Sloppy Floyd State Park this past week. It was beautiful camping weather! Great temps and sunshine all the way.

More than just hanging out with nature, we needed to hang out with each other. We needed to see each other. We needed to be present.

We did just that. I cannot tell this man or show him enough how much I love him. From the tip of my head to the souls of my feet, I am thankful God brought us together.

My advice is this: when things become challenging, turn off the phone, put down the social media, take a break from everyone else and focus on the two of you. The things that you first fell in love with-embrace those things again. Don’t give up just because it’s the easy thing to do. Dig deep.

Roles of Wives

This week on Instagram I talked about Jolene Engle. She is an amazing woman of God who is teaching me about what it means to be a wife.

Backstory: I am a twice divorced survivor of domestic violence. For this reason (and a few others), David and I are not legally married. We are, however, spiritually married. We are equally committed. We are all in. We are one.

Jolene points out that wives have four main roles:

  • Help
  • Submit
  • Love
  • Respect

Out of all of those, I struggle with submission most. I can love, respect, and help him no problem, but to submit my will and wants and needs to David…that’s a little more challenging.

So, here’s what I’m doing about it: I’m going to study Biblical submission in depth. What does it look like? What does it mean? How can I more readily do this?

I know. I know. Lots of feminists out there would be up in arms about this wording. Here’s the deal: submission gives me power. It does not make me weaker. It protects me. With that, I’m signing off to say, “I’ll let you know what I learn.”

I Did a Thing…

I joined WW today. I need to track. I need the accountability. I need flexiblity. WW offers all that. 13 years ago, when I joined for the first time, I was 160 pounds trying to lose 10-15 pounds. I lost 10 pounds my first week. TEN.

I know it’s not going to be easy. I’ve been on a weight loss journey for a long while now. This ain’t my first rodeo. It IS doable.

Just because this is not the way I thought this journey would go, doesn’t mean it’s not the way it was SUPPOSED to go. ❤